Two Tiaras and a Sword

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

How to Raise a Societal Menace: Part 2

And's three more...

4. Anything that they have to work for is taboo. They are delicate creatures, and should not be forced to think or work harder than they want to. To make them do something they do not want to do is just plain cruel!

*Or you can teach them that life is full of hard work, and those that are not afraid to tackle it, will end up ahead in the game. The younger they are when they learn to do hard work, the better. You could also teach them that every job you've ever had included aspects that you did not want to do. But when it's your job, you can't just refuse to do it, "because you don't want to.". So, the sooner they learn this lesson as well, the easier it will be for them to take orders from authority figures in their life.

5. Allow them to make excuses, and talk back constantly. After all, what they have to it complaining, whining, or much more important than any advice, instruction, or constructive criticism another person may have to share with them. It is very important that their voice is heard!

*Or, you could teach them to respectfully state their case - no whining, complaining, yelling making excuses or talking back- then to respectfully accept the authority figure's decision on the matter. Whether they like it, or agree with it or not. Because they will not always agree with every decision made by their superiors, but they need to know how to deal with their emotions when they don't agree. Complaining, whining, yelling, making excuses, and talking back are not welcome in the work force today. Your child is just a toddler you say? What better time to start their training. By the time they are teenagers, they will stand out like shining stars against the background of all of their whiny, complaining peers.

6. Do not require that they always do their best. As long as they do something. Anything. It is better than doing nothing. So if they do half of the chore, or do it halfheartedly, at least they did that much. Making them do their best requires too much on their part, and yours for that matter.

*Or, you could require nothing less than their best in everything they do. Teaching them that the job they do, and the way they do it, reflects not only on them, but on the God they serve. Teach them that how they work, will be a part of their reputation. Teach them that everything they do should be done as if they were doing it not for a person, but for the Lord.

The last three coming soon...


Barbie said...

WOW!!! I will say that you have hit "society's" excuses spot on. People don't expect much from teens today... some think as long as they are applying themselves in some form or fahsion that it is ok. Well, it's not. We should expect our teens to do their best no matter what they are doing. Especially when no one is watching. I have been guilty of this in the past but since reading "Do Hard Things"... I have been convicted that it is "My Girl's" responsibilty to raise her own standards and strive to surpass them.
Love your post and your wisdom.

Tricia said...

Thanks, Barbie! I am so glad it worked, and you could post your comment. And yes, "Do Hard Things" definitely is an eye opening book. I am glad you read it. Be sure to pass it on. Thank you for your encouragement!