Two Tiaras and a Sword

Saturday, August 31, 2013

If You Ever Wish To Date My Daughter

As our oldest daughter nears her 16th birthday, more and more of her friends are beginning to date.  Although we do not believe in a magic dating age, we know that she is closer to the dating scene than she has ever been before.  I have watched some of the boys that girls her age have decided to date.  And several things have jumped out at me.  Things I want her to be aware of before she spends too much and time and energy on any one certain boy.  I want her to pick guys that are worth the picking.  It will save us all much time and energy in the long run.  So, in that spirit, I thought I'd do a little tongue in cheek blog about it.  The following are in no particular order.

If you ever wish to date my daughter (I wrote the blog, so I am using pronouns like I, me, and my, but her father has pre-read and agrees with every word)...

*Do not take "selfie" pictures of yourself in the bathroom mirror, with your hat on backward, your shirt off, and your underwear showing.  This screams that you are full of...well...yourself.  The young man that gets the privilege of dating my daughter, will be a young man who is not full of himself, but concerned with others.  A young man who has a concept of the world outside of...himself.  And while we are on this topic...know that I WILL do my research, and if any other distasteful pictures of you  (pictures of your PRIVATE parts, pictures of you doing ANYTHING illegal, pictures of you making lewd gestures, pictures of you laying on an old girlfriend's bed, or lounging in her bedroom, just to name a few) show up, you are automatically disqualified.  No need to even apply.  We are looking for a young man of integrity.  A young man who respects himself, and others.

*Do not intentionally misspell words in your social media messages.   This is very disrespectful to every teacher who ever poured her life into yours to teach you how to spell things correctly.  It insults the intelligence of your readers.  And, it screams that you would rather "fit in with the "cool" crowd, than follow the rules of society."  Thank you.  There's the door.
 We are looking for a young man who has the guts to do what is right (in both big and very tiny things), even when it is not the cool thing to do.  So you do not qualify.

*Do not view sex is a recreational sport, rather than a God given gift to married people.  Just keeping it real.  If you have been sexually active.  I will know.  This one may be a little tougher to prove, but believe me, I have mad P.I. skills.  And if you are, or have been, your reputation will proceeded you. End Game.
We are looking for someone who is man enough to have self control.  A young man who respects God enough to trust that His way is not only the best way, but the only way.

*Do not spend hours on end playing video games, as if they are the most important thing in life, and you scream and yell, or fly into a rage when something happens to keep you from getting to the next level.  If you do, you are out of touch with reality, have your priorities screwd up, lack social skills, and have anger issues.  What even makes you think you have a chance?
 We are looking for a young man who knows there is life outside of a video game.  We are looking for a young man who wants to experience real life, not just live a fantasy life.  We are looking for a young man who has time management skills.  We are looking for a young man who gets mad about real life things that matter, and looks for more constructive ways to handle his anger, and fix his problems than throwing things and screaming and yelling.

*You must have a personal, active, authentic, growing relationship with the Lord.  You must attend a Bible believing church on a regular basis.  You must be actively involved in your church's youth group.  If not, what makes you think you have a prayer?  
We are looking for a young man who will lead his home well.  A young man who will love and live God's Word.  A young man who will keep his family in church and bring up his children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  We know that if you love the Lord as you should, you will love our daughter as you should.

*Do not ever make comments about her body, or ask her to send you pictures of herself (prior to your wedding night, after the ceremony)...we will change her number immediately, defriend and block you from ever finding her on FB again, and keep you from having her new number.  Yes.  We have done it once.  No big deal to do it again.
We are looking for someone who respects her inside and out.  Not some hormone driven adolescent who is looking to satisfy his animalistic urges.  No perverts allowed.

*Do not live off of your mom and dad.  Do not carelessly break the things they work hard to provide for you, and then expect them to run out and buy you another one.  Do not expect the world to be
handed to you on a silver platter while you sit on your duff all day.  If you do...goodbye.
 We are looking for a young man who knows how to work, and appreciates what it takes to make money .  A young man who will work hard and provide for his future family some day.  How will we know him?  He's the one that has a job now.  No job?  No date with my daughter.

*Do not go on a rant on any social media outlet about any of your peers or authority figures.  If you have, I am sorry.  This is the end of the line for you.  
We are looking for a young man who knows how to respect his peers and authority figures, even when they make decisions he does not agree with.  We are looking for a young man who can take care of disagreements in a respectful and private manner, without engaging the gang mentality, and airing all his dirty laundry for the world to see, and dragging innocent bystanders into his fight.

*Do not get lazy with your grades.  If you do, you get an F-. 
 We are looking for a young man who will do his best in the classroom, as well as the athletic field, or court.  Again, we are looking for a young man who has the ability and drive to provide for his future family.  If you don't show signs of this now, we are not going to pretend with you that it will just magically appear overnight.  Show us some initiative, or go home.

*Do not lie to her, or me, ever.  She may not pick up on it, but I have an uncanny ability to spot a lie a mile away.  And while I may not let you know I know you are lying immediately...remember, this 
is life, not baseball.  The three strikes-you're out rule does not apply.
We are looking for a young man who will take responsibility for his actions.  A young man who can admit when he is wrong, and face the consequences.  A young man of truth and honor.

*Do not be a girly-man.  There are way too many guys out there that do not know how to be manly men.  Too many guys have gotten too much in touch with their feminine sides.
We want a young man who will be strong enough to protect our daughter should the need arise.  We want a young man who likes to fix things, build things, hunt or fish.  And speaking of fishing, be able to bait your own hook.  If that's not how you roll, than there are plenty of other fish in the sea.  My daughter is not the one for you.

So, there you have it.  If you wish to date her, you know what we expect.  And we hold the right to add to this list at any given time.  And yes, I asked her to read this blog before I shared it with all of you.  She gave me her blessing to hit the send button.  So now, if you wish to date her, you know what she expects from you as well.  If you do not fit the requirements, save your time and energy.

Her grandfather said, "Guys want a good girl, but all too often they don't want to to be the good (to the core of their character) guy that it takes to get a good girl."  I have faith that there are still some guys out there that are willing to do what it takes.  Guys that will be the answer to many a Mother's prayer for her daughter.

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Thankful Thursday 35

*For circumstances that drive me to my knees, and deepen my relationship with The Lord

*For courage and strength when my courage and strength are gone

*For people willing to stand up for right, even when it is very, very hard

*For a nice dinner with my prince

*For answered prayer

*For my kiddos making it home from the game safely-even if it was at 2:30am

*For someone who paid attention to details, and cared enough to switch the schedule a little, so the young princess could get some much needed rest

*For a beautiful day

*For the chance to be a part of a very sweet couple's special day

*For friends

*For fun fellowship

*For two baptisms

*For a rededication

*For safety for my Mother and Father-in-Love as they traveled

*For a very exciting football game

*For not one, not two, not three, but FOUR touchdowns for the young prince - Whoo Hoo!!

*For Grammy and Poppy being here to see the young prince play football

*For the chance to see my girl play volleyball

*For a disappointment that turned out to be a delicious dinner

*For a much needed good night's rest

*For a good day at work

*For a chance to "get away" for a quick, romantic dinner for two, with my prince (okay, so it was a rushed dinner at Burger King, but we used our imaginations and enjoyed being kid free for a few minutes)

*For finally getting some things accomplished that I needed to get accomplished

*For a teacher who honored a frazzled mom's request

*For Grammy and Poppy being willing to run some very important errands that I did not have time to run

*For the peace of knowing true love from my family

*For verses that encourage me "right where I am" no matter what I am going through at that particular time

For all these things and MANY, MANY more I am thankful to the Lord!

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Thankful Thursday 34

*For a good group of girls at our next-to-the-last Bible Study

*For a great student and a friend who set up my classroom computer

*For another good friend who also helped me with my computer

*For the first half-week of school being behind us

*For a fun night at the Football Jamboree

*For good fellowship with a friend I have missed spending time with

*For tackles, forced fumbles, and fumble recoveries for the young prince

*For a win for our boys

*For a weekend conference for the oldest princess and young prince to attend

*For a youth pastor and his wife who prayed and planned for an awesome weekend for our teens

*For a little one on one time with the youngest princess

*For the Kindle app, so we can read the next book in the Mandie series, without having to wait until we can get to the book store

*For a morning to sleep in, and a day to catch up on laundry.

*For a chance to finally meet a precious new baby

*For a great day in the house of the Lord

*For a sweet couple joining our church

*For testimonies from our teens about their weekend

*For having my children home again

*For a time of prayer for our community schools

*For a job for a friend

*For more new folks in our Earn While You Learn class, who will hear the Gospel

*For a great day at school

*For laughter with friends

*For the privilege of prayer

*For seeing God move when His people pray

*For a good talk with my big brother

*For a husband and children who pitch in and help out

*For life examples that enable us to teach our children important lessons

For all these things and many, many more, I am thankful to the Lord.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Thankful Thursday 33

*For a great Bible Study

*For the young prince getting his braces off

*For a successful shopping trip

*Safe travels for the volleyball team and their parents

*For fun fellowship with friends

*For a teeny, tiny inchworm friend that points to the wonders of God's creation

*For safe travels home

*For fun times with our Sunday School class

*For great food

*For the opportunity to help a friend who always helps me

*For great kids

*For a clean front porch (thanks to the young prince)

*For sorted socks (thanks to the oldest princess)

*For a fun dinner out with friends

*For an unexpected blessing

*For a full day's work, and getting a lot accomplished

*For friends

*For those who hang boards, paint walls, and remove staples as well as many other acts of service

*For answers to prayers

*For a fun night with friends for both of my girls

*For one on one time with my prince

*For one on one time with the young prince

*For proof that there are still good people in the world

*For a new watch battery

*For a wonderful new group of parents and students

*For a good first day back to school for my kids

*For a sweet gift from my  awesome husband

For all these things, and many, many more, I am thankful to the Lord!

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Thankful Thursday 32

*For a friend who invites the youngest princess over every Thursday, which is a huge help to me for study time

*For a great Bible Study night with both of my groups of girls

*For each and every person who prays for our Bible Study

*For the young prince having a great time at a friend's house

*For a spontaneous ice cream/slushie run

*For the trust of a friend

*For a friend I can call when in need of advice

*For precious times with my kids.  I do not take those moments for granted.

*For friends who ask me to pray for them, and return the favor when I need prayer

*For a fun day for the oldest princess

*For the ending of an emotionally tough day

*For a wonderful church service

*For a quiet day and time to catch up on some things I was behind on getting done

*For fun just chatting with a couple of friends

*For a chance to finally get the young prince's hair cut

*For a wonderful dinner

*For fun times working and laughing (mostly laughing) together in the kitchen

*For garden bounty shared by friends

*For a sweet bible study

*For people who have taken my name to the throne room of God in earnest prayer (I was overwhelmed with thankfulness one day just even thinking about how many people must have prayed for me during my lifetime, and I am truly thankful for every prayer said on my behalf!)

*For a friend brave enough to share her struggles and be gut wrenchingly honest even though it was really hard for her

*For time to get something important done before school starts back

*For an awesome award for my big brother - I'm a proud little sister

*For a change in an appointment that allowed me to be there for the young prince

*For laughing together, crying  together, and loving one another

For all these things, and many, many more, I am thankful to the Lord!

Monday, August 5, 2013

And the Winners Are...

Woo Hoo!  Thank you all for entering my giveaway!  It was my first ever giveaway, and I had a blast doing it!  I am very thankful to Mindy at The Child Training Bible for making it possible :-)!

I had a very scientific way of picking my winners.  I found a great little app about a week ago called Decide Now! (Shout out to my wonderful niece who totally enriched my life by bringing it to my attention!) It is like a Wheel of Fortune wheel, and you can fill in what goes in each space (SO MANY POSSIBILITIES!).  So I put the name of each of the people who commented, in a space on my wheel, and gave it a spin.  I actually pushed the button five times to get it going really fast.  I know, I know...but it was better than having my kids pick a number right?

And now...the moment we have all been waiting for (cue drumroll)...the winners are...

From the blog comments:  Joyful Mom!!!  Congratulations!


From the Facebook comments: Kristin Gallatin!!! Congratulations!

I really wish you ALL could have won!  It is a great resource that I hope you all will all be able to purchase and use, or maybe through one of the other blog giveaways, even win.  My prayer is that God will bless you all, as you strive to be godly parents raising godly children.

Joyful Mom, I will set my comments on this blog so that I have to moderate the comments, and you can send me your mailing address.  I will pass it on to Mindy, and she will send you your free set of VTB cards :-)!

Kristin, you have to make a trip and come pick your set up.  No special delivery for you :-)!  Just kidding!  I know where to find you, and I will be sending our extra set to you.  Love ya!

And again, thank you all for participating!

Friday, August 2, 2013

A Giveaway!!!

Okay, it took a little longer than I had planned, due to a week at World Changers (blog on that coming soon), but I FINALLY get to share my exciting news with you all!

A while back, I had seen on Pinterest, and on FB pictures of something called the Child Training Bible.  I was, of course, very interested because fighting the media and training our children to grow up with a Biblical Worldview in today's world is extremely difficult!  And the Child Training Bible looked like just the tool to help.  We ended up ordering one and loved it! 

While working on my Child training Bible, I found out that the same wonderful people who took the time to put such a helpful resource on the market, were working on a new resource, with the same concept, called The Virtue Training Bible.  Believe me, I was VERY excited about this.  Our oldest two children are teens, and I felt that the Virtue Training Bible would fit our season of life even more appropriately than The Child Training Bible.

So, I watched their Facebook page and waited for the release.  It was put on the market at the beginning of July.  I found out that I could do a review of the new Virtue Training Bible on my blog! I was VERY EXCITED!!  Because not only would they send ME a set of FREE cards, but they would also allow me to GIVE away a FREE set of cards to one of YOU!!  And, before I could tell my husband that I was going to get a free set of cards for doing the review, he purchased a set, so I also have a set that I am personally going to give away!!  But first...

The Virtue Training Bible is a set of cards (you must purchase the Bible, and sticky tabs separately) that guide you and help you have certain Bible verses at your fingertips to use in teaching your children important Biblical virtues.  If your child has a problem with patience, you pull out the VTB and go to the color coded verses about patience.  Your child gets to see what God has to say about patience, and His promises to those who have this virtue in their life.  There are 42 virtues in all!

It does take time to put on on the tabs and color code all the verses.  One helpful tip I learmed from a friend who did their Child Training Bible before me, was to use colored pencils instead of highlighters like the kit suggests, because the highlighters will bleed through the page.

I like to sit and get mine done all at once (being a teacher and out for the summer gives me a little more freedom to do mine this way).  But I know of families who do one virtue a night, or a week, as their family devotions.  I know of people who have done the top in one sitting, the side in another, and the bottom in yet another.  However you do it, expect to put some time into it.  But it is DEFINITELY worth the time, because when you are done, it is an excellent resource that your family can use for years to come.

It is not only a great resource for parents.  I think adults, grandparents, and Christian school teachers could benefit from this wonderful resource as well.  It would also be a great gift for friends and family members who have children.

So, if you are interested in winning a FREE set of Virtue Training Bible cards, leave a comment.  I will announce the winner next Monday Aug. 5th, so you must comment by midnight Sunday Aug. 4th to be eligible to win!  And for my friends who aren't bloggers, I will give my purchased set away to one of my friends who comments on my FB link to this blog :-).  (Same time frame applies to FB commenters as blog commenters).  So comment away everyone!

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Thankful Thursday 30 and 31

*For a safe flight in for my niece

*For clothes for our trip

*For a great lunch at my favorite restaraunt

*For fun memories, even if they were messy memories

*For creative help from my niece

*For silly movies and laughter

*For sunshine, water, floats, grills, and friends

*For rest

*For garbage, ants, and overflowing baptistries that let us know God has something great in the works, or Satan wouldn't be trying so hard to discourage us

*For a baptism, a salvation, and a family who joined our church, that proves God is bigger than garbage, ants, and overflowing baptistries

*For a precious lady who organized it so that every child got an encouraging message from home each and every day.

*For not having to worry about the youngest princess, knowing she was in the great care of my extraordinary niece who went way above and beyond to help us out

*For a safe trip for our group

*For silliness and laughter and inside jokes

*For no less than 5 people offering their pools for the youngest princess and my niece to use while we were gone

*For a sweet friend who brought the youngest princess projects to keep her mind off of the separation

*For technology that allows us to feel close, even when we are far apart

*For air mattresses

*For friends who let us borrow their air mattresses

*For a room full of great girls, and their very sweet/funny leader to bunk with for the week

*For shower trailers - not the greatest, but better than nothing at all

*For great food

*For new friends

*For the ability to help others

*For good preaching, and a lesson in humility

*For an awesome crew

* For teamwork

*For how God gave us each a unique set of talents, so that we have to depend on one another, and on Him to get things done

*For sunshine

*For quick healing

*For protection for others

*For encouragement

*For my niece bringing the youngest princess for a short visit

*For the people who came and heard the Gospel

*For a hardworking crew who got the job done

*For another hardworking crew who finished their job and then jumped right in and helped us with our job

*For a story that inspired the oldest princess to begin a really neat project

*For a safe trip home

*For a little rest

*For these sweet words whispered in my ear as I snuggled with the youngest princess, "Welcome home, Mommy!"

*For my own bed

*For my own shower

*For washing machines

*For family fun, glow sticks, water bottles, memories, and laughter

*For a day of rest

*For an unexpected note of encouragement from a very special young lady

*For a safe flight home for my niece

*For the chance to help out a friend

*For a fun day for the youngest princess and a friend

*For apples and peanut butter

*For God's hand of protection on a friend in a very scary situation

For all these things, and many, many more, I am thankful to the Lord.